What is Love? Love is not about valuing an object that you want to have/own or already have/own and want to continue having/owning. That is craving, lust, possession. That kind of “love” is directed towards an object and so is inherently objectifying. It objectifies the object “loved” whether that object is a machine, animal, a home or a human. No one wants to be objectified. We don’t respond to objectification with warm and fuzzy feelings. We feel cheated and even insulted.
Real love involves generosity, patience, discipline and is at first painful and difficult to enter into and only after some time is rewarding/releasing/liberating. Real love liberates the object or person loved, through wishing it well and giving it independence and freedom. It is not possessive.