“Being the One is just like being in love.
No one can tell you you’re in love.
You just know it,
through and through,
balls to bones.”
The Oracle speaking to Neo within the movie The Matrix.
What does it mean to know something like knowing that you are in love? The Oracle raises a good question here and I found that the answer is not immediately obvious. I first wanted to answer that it is like knowing something with confidence but then I felt that didn’t quite answer it right. Then when I stepped into the shoes of someone who is head over heels in love I realized that there is a knowledge there that doesn’t involve anyone else. What I mean is that being in love does not require anyone else’s verification or legitimization. Being in love is, in a way, quite a solitary act in that the person that you are in love with might not even know that you exist. It doesn’t matter what the “reality” of the situation is to someone who is in love. The certainty of your exuberance is there and it doesn’t require the participation of anyone else for its existence.
Of course, we are all familiar with how fleeting this absolute feeling of being in love can be. After a while our mind starts thinking and starts to require certain things in order for it to support such an exuberance of emotion. Our mind, at some point, wants to know whether this “being in love” is in our best interest or not. Does the person love us back? Does the person, at least, like us a little? Does the person who we are in love with, at least, not hate us? And then if some of those answers are yes the mind starts in with more questions. Does this person really deserve our love? Does the person who we are in love with have the capacity to love us equally in return? Is this person free or “available” to receive our love? And so the mind clamps down or diminishes that early pure exhuberance of being in love.
That initial pure state of being in love is worth considering from the spiritual perspective. How much of that type of love do we carry towards God, our Divine Beloved, or, if we are not that type of spiritualist, towards life inself? I think this type of consideration is really what the Oracle was talking about to Neo in the Matrix. She was asking him, do you feel that type of innocence exhuberance that is totally unconnected and immune to the circumstances of your life? If so, then you are pure, you are a saint, you are a mahatma, you are the ONE.